Melting
I was seventeen when I had my first relationship. He was sweet, kind and exceptionally creative as well as utterly respectful of all my boundaries. His creativity was fantastic, and he introduced me to my body in a wonderfully playful and exciting way.
I remember sitting at the family computer; a big grey box set up in the dining room that we were allowed to use for half an hour a day. I’d opened an email he had sent me from university (he was a year older than I was) where he had written me a story. It was the first time I had read erotica – or anything like it – and I still remember to this day both the fear that my parents would walk in, and how deliciously wonderful it was to read his words.
The piece described a scenario in which he was running an ice cube over my body, and the way the melting water dripped down over my skin and down into my folds and crevices.
The idea of playing with the sensations of ice and cold stuck with me, though the email (and the boyfriend) are long gone, but I didn’t get a chance to experience it for myself for another year or two. My partner and I had booked a hotel to stay in, and despite our conservative upbringing, pillows down the middle didn’t do much to stop us from experimenting with the ice bucket. I loved the sensation, though it was shocking. Something about the intense cold draws all my focus and allows me to concentrate on the way I am being touched.
I learned recently that I may be neurodiverse, although the hassle of a diagnosis is beyond me right now. A lot of things just fell into place when I realised, and I wonder whether this is why the cold helps so much. It drowns out all extraneous sensory information with its intensity and allows me to really feel and engage. It just works for me (though it isn’t the only thing that works for me, obviously).
What really surprised me was the way I couldn’t feel the cold at all when the ice was inside me. So much cold, and then all of a sudden – gone. My partner felt it, which was brilliant and hilarious, and just writing this makes me want to do it again! I could feel the cool melted water trickling between my thighs, which was such a contrast to the heat of him, I found it very exciting (and messy!)
More recently though, my fun with cold has been with lube (we keep coconut oil in the fridge) and metal toys (which always seem so cold, no matter the weather!). I love the way the oil, which is solid in the fridge, melts on the skin. It is like a toned down version of the ice – cold enough to feel shocking, but quicker to warm and melt and drip (and safer too). It works well with my favourite metal plug, the cool of it intensifying the sensation of it being pulled across my skin. It feels infinitely better than the silicone, and even the glass. If you are really brave, you can dip in in ice water first (though for my arse, this goes a little too far).
It is very surprising that it is the only metal toy I own. I think this might be a sign that I need more metal in my toy collection …
I’m off to browse the web. I’ll leave you with these …
Another inspired and inspiring post! (and thanks for the coconut oil tip, I used it in my post today [smile])
And the pics are beautiful.
Keep on having fun and getting healthy.
Thank you!
Lovely story and it’s. Ice can be fun!
Thank you
We use coconut oil as well. Absolutely love it as lube! Amazing images.
Isn’t it brilliant! Thank you.
I love this post and your description of that early email. Both cold and heat can be interesting and erotic ways of achieving arousal. Plus anything that focuses the mind is good too. Love the image as well.
Thank you!
I remember how the cold air cleared my head and calmed me in some really anxious times, so that makes a lot of sense.
The only metal toys I have are butt plugs at the moment.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It’s got me thinking about experimenting more x
Yes, that definitely works for me too. I have had many a mad dash for fresh air when feeling anxious and/or panicky. Have fun experimenting!
Ohhh this might have inspired me to buy some coconut oil at some point. Do you just use stuff you find in the grocery shops?
Molly
Yes! As long as you make sure it is the raw stuff (I usually go for extra virgin, ironically!) so that there are no additives.
I’ve been thinking … you might be able to get one of the coconut oil manufacturers or retailers to sponsor you and your site. They might be very interested in new market development.
Or you could repackage the oil in a demure, elegant container suitable for a nightstand and sell it under your brand.
just a random thought I wanted to share.
Brand, lol!
It’s not a secret, I think coconut oil is well known for its use as lube (amongst other things) and has been for a long time.
I also wouldn’t keep it on the nightstand – at least, not in the summer. We keep it in the fridge so that we know it hasn’t spoiled (and we get it out carefully with a clean knife, to make sure it doesn’t get contaminated).
right …. keep it cold.
That’s something not obvious to me right now. In my part of the world it was minus 20 F last night.
yeah, it’s not so bad in the winter, but I like to be careful as I have very sensitive flora and fauna!
I love how touch brings back the intensest memories. And the heart racing excitement of receiving illicit words from a lover. So good to read x
Thank you!
Yup, you were right, I shivered and wrapped myself in a blanket reading this. It is lovely to read your enthusiasm for it though, that shines through.
*hands you a hot cup of tea*
Thank you!
Ice is fun.
And coconut oil is my favorite lube.